So i'm single now...

Yes, it's true. I'm a newly single twenty-something and I have to say that for a girl who has for the past 6 or 7 years jumped from one long term, prematurely serious and monogamous relationship to the next, it's a bit of a revelation. This is the first time i've ever actually enjoyed being single... usually it's the down time of two months or so in which I simultaneously get over one relationship and fall head first into another - usually with which ever male friend i'm closest to at the time, for ease. I'm usually just waiting for my next boyfriend to occur. 

This time however it's different. I'm older for starters, i'm not sure how that makes it different but I have the feeling it does. I am, for the first time in a long time, enjoying my own company - not too much of it, but little and often is quite nice. I get to do things like develop music tastes, something I have previously been too busy meeting parents, planning mini breaks and having afternoon student sex to the otherhalf's play lists to have the time or inclination to do.   I feel liberated and independent, i've gone on some pretty spontaneous adventures this summer, something I would never have had the time/yearning/money to do had I have spent the summer driving to and from a guys house.  I'm planning to go travelling at some point in the next few months - alone. Me. Alone. In another country. It's hither to never been heard of. It'll be great. 

I've no one's permission to get, no one else's feelings or pride to worry about and being single has opened me up to meeting some brilliant people. Not just men, just people. In a relationship I tend to glare at anyone in a bar or club, or even in Tesco's, giving out silent "i'm taken so don't bother" telepathic signals. I'm so resistant to meeting new people, so content am I in the bubble that my relationship creates. But single? I'm happy to talk to anyone - within reason - and it's opened up some great opportunities for interesting conversation, fun new adventures, contacts, different outlooks on the world and at one point a dance off with a Puerto-Rican midget in an underground club in San Francisco. Which, i'd like to add, I won. 

Basically i'm getting to find out a lot of stuff about myself I never knew - or had an inclining of but couldn't really verbalise. It's a cliche but i feel like i'm finding out who I really am and all that. I guess that's what your twenties are about. In conclusion, being single is fun and I intend to stay this way for a while, in order to have, in the infamous words of Bill and Ted, an 'Excellent Adventure'.